The Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life Team would like to extend a BIG HEARTFELT THANK YOU to all our “Messengers of Hope” for your kindness and generosity in supporting our organization on Fairfield County Giving Day! More than ever, our therapeutic “Comfort Backpacks” for children diagnosed with cancer are NEEDED to give children positive ways to cope with their feelings of trauma, not only from that of a life-threatening illness, but also from the devastating impact of a pandemic upon their lives and that of their families, emotionally, financially and socially.
The lyrics in Carole King's song, "You've Got a Friend" truly illustrates what Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life means to a child during their cancer treatments and the special bonding which develops and remains as a constant in their lives as they transition back into their community of peers.
"When you're down and troubled
And you need some love and care
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running, to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend with Berni & Murcer-Friends for Life!"
The lyrics listed below reflect the uniquely special and unwaveringly generous relationship Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life has with our Messengers of Hope. You're there to support us when you call upon you each and every time and you're there cheering us on along the way to shine the light of hope and healing to the children and their families during their darkest hours. If we dream it, we can be it!
"You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running, running, yeah, yeah, to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call Our Messengers of Hope!"
Stay tuned to upcoming news on how Berni & Murcer – Friends for Life is making a transformative difference in the healing journey for children. We so appreciate all of you taking this journey with us as “Messengers of Hope” during these unprecedented times.
Being a Messenger of Hope doesn't end on Giving Day! 15,590 children are diagnosed EVERY year and they NEED US the other 364 days! Here's how YOU can continue to help...
THANK YOU AGAIN and stay healthy and safe!!
With our love and gratitude,
Teri, Jonathan and Aaron Gaberman and the Berni & Murcer Friends for Life Team!❤️❤️
The lyrics in Carole King's song, "You've Got a Friend" truly illustrates what Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life means to a child during their cancer treatments and the special bonding which develops and remains as a constant in their lives as they transition back into their community of peers.
"When you're down and troubled
And you need some love and care
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running, to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend with Berni & Murcer-Friends for Life!"
The lyrics listed below reflect the uniquely special and unwaveringly generous relationship Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life has with our Messengers of Hope. You're there to support us when you call upon you each and every time and you're there cheering us on along the way to shine the light of hope and healing to the children and their families during their darkest hours. If we dream it, we can be it!
"You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running, running, yeah, yeah, to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call Our Messengers of Hope!"
Stay tuned to upcoming news on how Berni & Murcer – Friends for Life is making a transformative difference in the healing journey for children. We so appreciate all of you taking this journey with us as “Messengers of Hope” during these unprecedented times.
Being a Messenger of Hope doesn't end on Giving Day! 15,590 children are diagnosed EVERY year and they NEED US the other 364 days! Here's how YOU can continue to help...
- Spread the word!
- Forward this email!
- Like Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and share our posts with others!
- Oh, and you can also just tell someone in person – that works, too!
THANK YOU AGAIN and stay healthy and safe!!
With our love and gratitude,
Teri, Jonathan and Aaron Gaberman and the Berni & Murcer Friends for Life Team!❤️❤️
The true beauty of music is that it connects people. It carries a message, and we, the musicians, are the messengers. -Roy Ayers
Berni & Murcer's Voices of Hope!
Berni & Murcer is kicking off an exciting musical project that we're calling: "Berni & Murcer: Voices of Hope!" Children and Adults are invited to come together as a virtual choir to bring the Healing Power of Music to children undergoing a cancer diagnosis and their families. The song, “Faithful Friend” was composed by jazz musician, Chris Coogan as a child’s special and uplifting anthem of "Hope and Healing" during their journey with cancer and/or with any life-changing event in their lives. This song will be released later in the year and gifted to children in hospital oncology units throughout the area.
To get started, we've assembled a small virtual choir of students from Blind Brook-Rye Union Free School in Rye Brook, New York under the direction of Music Teacher, Kaitlin Lazere, who performed the song, “Faithful Friend.” It is our hope that our 'mini-virtual choir' is the inspiration for you, your family, friends and colleagues to donate the gift of your voice to this project in the amount of $10.00.
How to Bring our Voices Together?
Listed below are two videos and one PDF file. The PDF file is the sheet music for Faithful Friend. The first video is a tutorial that walks you through the song and how to record your voice for the virtual choir. The second video features the sheet music of Faithful Friend and an audio track that singers can sing along with as they record.
PLEASE share this invitation to ALL who would like to GIVE the Gift of Song to children battling cancer. We would LOVE to have singers of all ages. Faithful Friend is in unison and is very accessible to all voices.
All voice recordings should be submitted directly to this email address (berniandmurcervoicesofhope@gmail.com). More detailed instructions on how to do this can be found in the tutorial video. Kaitlin Lazere is happy to field any music or recording questions, so feel free to reach out to her via this email account!
THANK YOU so much for considering volunteering your time and energy to help support Berni & Murcer as we embark on this exciting musical project together of bringing love, hope and healing to children diagnosed with cancer and their families!
Berni & Murcer's Voices of Hope!
Berni & Murcer is kicking off an exciting musical project that we're calling: "Berni & Murcer: Voices of Hope!" Children and Adults are invited to come together as a virtual choir to bring the Healing Power of Music to children undergoing a cancer diagnosis and their families. The song, “Faithful Friend” was composed by jazz musician, Chris Coogan as a child’s special and uplifting anthem of "Hope and Healing" during their journey with cancer and/or with any life-changing event in their lives. This song will be released later in the year and gifted to children in hospital oncology units throughout the area.
To get started, we've assembled a small virtual choir of students from Blind Brook-Rye Union Free School in Rye Brook, New York under the direction of Music Teacher, Kaitlin Lazere, who performed the song, “Faithful Friend.” It is our hope that our 'mini-virtual choir' is the inspiration for you, your family, friends and colleagues to donate the gift of your voice to this project in the amount of $10.00.
How to Bring our Voices Together?
Listed below are two videos and one PDF file. The PDF file is the sheet music for Faithful Friend. The first video is a tutorial that walks you through the song and how to record your voice for the virtual choir. The second video features the sheet music of Faithful Friend and an audio track that singers can sing along with as they record.
PLEASE share this invitation to ALL who would like to GIVE the Gift of Song to children battling cancer. We would LOVE to have singers of all ages. Faithful Friend is in unison and is very accessible to all voices.
All voice recordings should be submitted directly to this email address (berniandmurcervoicesofhope@gmail.com). More detailed instructions on how to do this can be found in the tutorial video. Kaitlin Lazere is happy to field any music or recording questions, so feel free to reach out to her via this email account!
THANK YOU so much for considering volunteering your time and energy to help support Berni & Murcer as we embark on this exciting musical project together of bringing love, hope and healing to children diagnosed with cancer and their families!
#AllInThisTogether
September is...
Childhood Cancer Awareness Month!
"When it Rains, We look for Rainbows...
When it's Dark, We look for Stars."
Childhood Cancer Awareness Month is a time when we celebrate advances in childhood cancer treatment and care, remember the children we've lost, and engage new advocates to join in our mission of achieving a day when every child with cancer can live a long and healthy life.
This year, we also recognize the challenges and hardships that COVID-19 has created for families dealing with a childhood cancer diagnosis -- delayed appointments, severe financial strain, and overwhelming anxiety, exacerbated by social isolation.
This month, approximately 1,400 families will hear the words no one wants to hear – "Your Child has Cancer "– in the midst of a global pandemic.
These families need support now more than ever. Childhood Cancer is not cancelled and above all, Hope is not cancelled. Please join us in our journey of bringing hope and healing to children diagnosed with cancer (and their families) through the Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life "Comfort Backpack" program.
The multi-dimensional therapeutic program is designed to improve the child's overall social and emotional well-being. With the normalcy of imaginative and interactive childhood play, Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life generates a renewal of inspired hope and increase of energy in the child to fight his or her illness, gain the strength and desire to persevere through the rigors of treatment, and increase their coping ability to receive life enriching after-care. Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life transforms children away from being “cancer patients,” to a recognition of their own self-identity, personal growth, and a healthy outcome.
When it's Dark, We look for Stars."
Childhood Cancer Awareness Month is a time when we celebrate advances in childhood cancer treatment and care, remember the children we've lost, and engage new advocates to join in our mission of achieving a day when every child with cancer can live a long and healthy life.
This year, we also recognize the challenges and hardships that COVID-19 has created for families dealing with a childhood cancer diagnosis -- delayed appointments, severe financial strain, and overwhelming anxiety, exacerbated by social isolation.
This month, approximately 1,400 families will hear the words no one wants to hear – "Your Child has Cancer "– in the midst of a global pandemic.
These families need support now more than ever. Childhood Cancer is not cancelled and above all, Hope is not cancelled. Please join us in our journey of bringing hope and healing to children diagnosed with cancer (and their families) through the Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life "Comfort Backpack" program.
The multi-dimensional therapeutic program is designed to improve the child's overall social and emotional well-being. With the normalcy of imaginative and interactive childhood play, Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life generates a renewal of inspired hope and increase of energy in the child to fight his or her illness, gain the strength and desire to persevere through the rigors of treatment, and increase their coping ability to receive life enriching after-care. Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life transforms children away from being “cancer patients,” to a recognition of their own self-identity, personal growth, and a healthy outcome.
Berni's Face Mask Tips for Parents Campaign
"This was very helpful!" - parent
Earlier this summer, we launched "Berni's Face Mask Tips for Parents Campaign" in helping children to get comfortable with wearing a face mask. Parents found these tips to be helpful. Wearing a face mask is one of the most important things we can do to protect each other, especially those most vulnerable - children with cancer from COVID-19. #maskup
A BIG Berni & Murcer THANK YOU to our Friends at Love Your Melon!
Love Your Melon generously donated 250 of their reusable face masks for children to be included in our “ Comfort Backpacks.” THANK YOU!...Together, we're making a difference in the lives of children diagnosed with cancer! Fifty percent of net profits from the sale of Love Your Melon products is given to nonprofits leading the fight against pediatric cancer through research, therapeutic experiences and family support.
A Special THANK YOU to the Helpers!
Fred Rogers famously said in an interview that his mother would tell him to "always look for the helpers" when a catastrophe occurred. "There will always be helpers," he said, citing medical workers and others who come in to a troubled situation. "Because if you look for the helpers, you'll know there's hope." - Tom Hanks
Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life expresses its HEARTFELT THANK YOU to all the "HELPERS" who are working tirelessly to care for others and our communities. Stay healthy, safe and care for one another!
Fred Rogers famously said in an interview that his mother would tell him to "always look for the helpers" when a catastrophe occurred. "There will always be helpers," he said, citing medical workers and others who come in to a troubled situation. "Because if you look for the helpers, you'll know there's hope." - Tom Hanks
Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life expresses its HEARTFELT THANK YOU to all the "HELPERS" who are working tirelessly to care for others and our communities. Stay healthy, safe and care for one another!
Dear Friends, We hope you and your families are safe and well and doing what you can to protect yourself, your family, friends and community during this unprecedented moment in our lives. During these days of uncertainty and distress, Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life would like to express our sincere gratitude to you from the bottom of our hearts for all you do in helping us to bring comfort, inspiration, hope and healing to children and their families diagnosed with cancer. These tough and testing times remind us just how important our work means to these children and their families as they navigate through difficult journeys toward hope and healing. Your love and generosity mean so much to us! WE'RE in this TOGETHER! Much love and hugs, the Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life Team
The song, "Your Faithful Friend" was written and composed by musician, Chris Coogan at the request of the "Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life" organization as a musical gift of song to inspire, encourage and to give hope to children who have been diagnosed with cancer and other life threatening illnesses. The child's "Faithful Friend" is Berni, the Bernese Mountain Dog who is his or her trusted and loyal companion throughout their days of joy and tears, providing strength and courage, and giving them a lifetime of love, happiness and friendship. During these challenging days, we hope this song will bring light to your day, lift your heavy hearts, and inspire you in knowing that we are each other's "Faithful Friend!" #We're in this Together
How to Protect Children with Cancer (Tips during COVID-19 season)
By: Trish Adkins (courtesy of Alex's Lemonade Stand)
Children battling cancer not only face the health effects of the cancer itself, but they also face short- and long-term side effects. During treatment, typical therapies like chemotherapy and radiation can compromise a child’s immune system, putting them more at risk for illnesses like COVID-19.
Why is it important to protect children with cancer?
Treatments like chemotherapy, radiation, stem cell transplantation and other therapies can weaken the immune system. Chemotherapy drugs, in particular, damage or destroy the cells inside the bone marrow, lowering the number of white blood cells and other immune system cells circulating in the body. When the number of infection-fighting white blood cells is low, a child is in danger of developing serious infections and compromised at fighting those infections. In addition, children in treatment for cancer often cannot receive routine vaccinations, which puts them at risk for other communicable diseases. For children with bodies that are already recovering from cancer, the risk of illnesses is enormous.
What do I need to know to help kids with cancer?
There is so much unknown about COVID-19. As public health professionals and researchers work to find ways to treat and prevent COVID-19, it is up to us to remain aware and vigilant. The one thing we do know: if we all work together, we can protect the most vulnerable from COVID-19 and other cold and flu viruses.
Here’s what you need to know to protect children with cancer during cold, flu and COVID-19 season:
1. Wash Your Hands
The Centers for Disease Control recommends frequent hand washing to stop the spread of illness. For families in the midst of cancer treatment, the ALSF Childhood Cancer Guide series recommends frequent, lengthy (at least 1 to 2 minutes) and thorough hand washing for every member of the family, as well as for all visitors. Use plenty of soap and warm water, lather well, and rub all portions of the hands, including between all the fingers and under the fingernails. Children and parents need to wash before preparing meals, before eating, after playing outdoors, after petting an animal, and after using the bathroom. In addition, avoid touching your face or anyone’s face.
2. Social Distancing
Limiting large group interactions can also help slow the spread of viruses. Even if childhood cancer is not in your family or community, your vigilance and practice of social distancing could limit the spread of cold and flu viruses in your community.
3. Cancer Treatment is Not Always Visible
Keep in mind that cancer treatment and a suppressed immune system are not always visible. While cancer treatment is often visible, children in treatment don’t always look like they are in treatment. To you, they may just look like a typical kid. And their siblings certainly won’t look like they are being impacted by childhood cancer. Everyone should always be vigilant about hand washing, face touching and staying home when experiencing cold and flu symptoms.
4. Families May Still Have to Travel
Just because COVID-19 is circulating, that does not mean childhood cancer treatment stops. Families and children with cancer still have to get to treatment and critical follow-up oncology visits. They have to fly on planes to get to clinical trials and commute to urban hospitals for clinic visits. By taking precautions like hand washing and social distancing, you can help keep the world a little safer and hopefully lower the risk of virus transmission.
5. When in Doubt, Ask Your Healthcare Provider
Always, when in doubt, talk to and follow your healthcare provider’s guidelines. Ask your doctor if you are experiencing an illness and need to know whether you are a risk to your loved one battling cancer or if you are a parent of a child with cancer and want to understand more about how you can protect your child.
6. Respect a Family’s Wishes
The bottom line: we each have to listen to medical professionals and listen to each other. The most important thing you can do to protect children with cancer is to respect the wishes of their family and caregivers. If they do not want visitors, if they request no touching, require you to scrub in and wash up before entering their home—do it.
The Centers for Disease Control website has a set of guidelines around COVID-19 in addition to the World Health Organization.
By: Trish Adkins (courtesy of Alex's Lemonade Stand)
Children battling cancer not only face the health effects of the cancer itself, but they also face short- and long-term side effects. During treatment, typical therapies like chemotherapy and radiation can compromise a child’s immune system, putting them more at risk for illnesses like COVID-19.
Why is it important to protect children with cancer?
Treatments like chemotherapy, radiation, stem cell transplantation and other therapies can weaken the immune system. Chemotherapy drugs, in particular, damage or destroy the cells inside the bone marrow, lowering the number of white blood cells and other immune system cells circulating in the body. When the number of infection-fighting white blood cells is low, a child is in danger of developing serious infections and compromised at fighting those infections. In addition, children in treatment for cancer often cannot receive routine vaccinations, which puts them at risk for other communicable diseases. For children with bodies that are already recovering from cancer, the risk of illnesses is enormous.
What do I need to know to help kids with cancer?
There is so much unknown about COVID-19. As public health professionals and researchers work to find ways to treat and prevent COVID-19, it is up to us to remain aware and vigilant. The one thing we do know: if we all work together, we can protect the most vulnerable from COVID-19 and other cold and flu viruses.
Here’s what you need to know to protect children with cancer during cold, flu and COVID-19 season:
1. Wash Your Hands
The Centers for Disease Control recommends frequent hand washing to stop the spread of illness. For families in the midst of cancer treatment, the ALSF Childhood Cancer Guide series recommends frequent, lengthy (at least 1 to 2 minutes) and thorough hand washing for every member of the family, as well as for all visitors. Use plenty of soap and warm water, lather well, and rub all portions of the hands, including between all the fingers and under the fingernails. Children and parents need to wash before preparing meals, before eating, after playing outdoors, after petting an animal, and after using the bathroom. In addition, avoid touching your face or anyone’s face.
2. Social Distancing
Limiting large group interactions can also help slow the spread of viruses. Even if childhood cancer is not in your family or community, your vigilance and practice of social distancing could limit the spread of cold and flu viruses in your community.
3. Cancer Treatment is Not Always Visible
Keep in mind that cancer treatment and a suppressed immune system are not always visible. While cancer treatment is often visible, children in treatment don’t always look like they are in treatment. To you, they may just look like a typical kid. And their siblings certainly won’t look like they are being impacted by childhood cancer. Everyone should always be vigilant about hand washing, face touching and staying home when experiencing cold and flu symptoms.
4. Families May Still Have to Travel
Just because COVID-19 is circulating, that does not mean childhood cancer treatment stops. Families and children with cancer still have to get to treatment and critical follow-up oncology visits. They have to fly on planes to get to clinical trials and commute to urban hospitals for clinic visits. By taking precautions like hand washing and social distancing, you can help keep the world a little safer and hopefully lower the risk of virus transmission.
5. When in Doubt, Ask Your Healthcare Provider
Always, when in doubt, talk to and follow your healthcare provider’s guidelines. Ask your doctor if you are experiencing an illness and need to know whether you are a risk to your loved one battling cancer or if you are a parent of a child with cancer and want to understand more about how you can protect your child.
6. Respect a Family’s Wishes
The bottom line: we each have to listen to medical professionals and listen to each other. The most important thing you can do to protect children with cancer is to respect the wishes of their family and caregivers. If they do not want visitors, if they request no touching, require you to scrub in and wash up before entering their home—do it.
The Centers for Disease Control website has a set of guidelines around COVID-19 in addition to the World Health Organization.
Berni & Murcer - Friends for Life had a very successful Fairfield County Giving Day and it was all THANKS to YOU! A BIG SHOUT OUT goes to the Sacred Heart University Equestrian Team, Coaches and Horses - Alfie and Cheeky for helping to spread the word and for all their ongoing support of Berni & Murcer! They are a ROCK STAR TEAM!! #WeAreSHU
We had a great time networking with over 400 other nonprofits at the Launch Day event and witnessed the tremendous outpouring of support of people in making a difference in the lives of others! We received over $1,100 in donations and for those of you who didn't have the opportunity to donate on Giving Day, you can make a donation at www.berniandmurcer.org. We look forward to you joining us during next year's Giving Day! THANK YOU again and #SpreadtheLove!!
We had a great time networking with over 400 other nonprofits at the Launch Day event and witnessed the tremendous outpouring of support of people in making a difference in the lives of others! We received over $1,100 in donations and for those of you who didn't have the opportunity to donate on Giving Day, you can make a donation at www.berniandmurcer.org. We look forward to you joining us during next year's Giving Day! THANK YOU again and #SpreadtheLove!!
Our Purpose
Berni & Murcer – Friends for LifeTM is a specialized comfort program that works in collaboration with medical professionals and families to provide emotional support, day-to-day comfort, encouragement, and inspiration to children diagnosed with cancer and other life threatening illnesses through the use of manipulatives and materials that are designed to have therapeutic value.
Our Goal
To aid and advance the recovery of children while providing solace to their family members. As a comfort program, it is an essential component of the managed care process from diagnosis to reentry into community.
Our Call to Action
Each year, more than 27,000 children in the U.S., ages 3 to 18 are diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. That’s over and above the many hundreds of thousands of children already diagnosed with a potentially deadly illness. Another powerful fact: each year, more than 40,000 children in the U.S. undergo treatment for pediatric cancer.
As one can imagine, these children and their families are faced with a struggle often filled with fear and emotional trauma. Treatments and surgical procedures can be scary and even disfiguring, causing many of these children to isolate themselves and become socially withdrawn. Debilitating anxiety and depression are also common among both patient and family members.
Unfortunately, it can be difficult for children and their families to find the emotional stability and support they need during this life changing event. While there are many organizations that offer help to seriously ill children, none has been established to do what Berni & Murcer – Friends for LifeTM does.
Here's how we do it...
Each year, more than 27,000 children in the U.S., ages 3 to 18 are diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. That’s over and above the many hundreds of thousands of children already diagnosed with a potentially deadly illness. Another powerful fact: each year, more than 40,000 children in the U.S. undergo treatment for pediatric cancer.
As one can imagine, these children and their families are faced with a struggle often filled with fear and emotional trauma. Treatments and surgical procedures can be scary and even disfiguring, causing many of these children to isolate themselves and become socially withdrawn. Debilitating anxiety and depression are also common among both patient and family members.
Unfortunately, it can be difficult for children and their families to find the emotional stability and support they need during this life changing event. While there are many organizations that offer help to seriously ill children, none has been established to do what Berni & Murcer – Friends for LifeTM does.
Here's how we do it...